PRINCIPAL'S OFFICE

Welcome to the Principal's Office, a place where Homeschooling Dads can receive inspiration and encouragement on their roll as a member and leader of their homeschooling family.

Recently I was joking around with my youngest son, Ryan, and made a comment about something that made Jill look at me kind of funny. I can’t remember what the comment was now but Ryan leaned over to me and said, “Uh-oh, you got the ‘look’!”

I proceeded to ask him “What ‘look’ was that?”

“You know the ‘It’s time to be quiet and move on with a different topic’ look.”

I knew the look she gave me, but I did not realize that he picked up on it. I then started thinking about all the “looks” I get. I probably deserve most of those “looks” but some are not even directed toward me. As a homeschooling husband/dad, we all get those “looks” occasionally. Have you ever had a hard day at work and was looking forward to that nice quiet evening? And as soon as you step through the door you get THAT LOOK. You know the one where she has been over the same math problem five times and the child is by now just staring at the paper about ready to burst into tears. Or how about the “look” – “You take over, I am going to find the Calgon.”

Now, I do not want to scare off the new homeschooling dads. It usually isn’t that bad. We as dads need to remember that our families have been together all day and that it may be time for a break or a fresh mind. I try to help out as much as I can. There have been times when I just helped with the sixth explanation of the math problem and there were times when I made Jill take a break and let me do the rest of the work with the child.

Of course, you need to evaluate the situation and make the right decision. There may be a time or two when you offer to help and your wife gives you the look of - “This is my challenge and you do not want to get in the middle.” My advice is to step back because she is now on a mission. But remember, I am encouraging you to help because your wife may need a break even if it is for just one problem. Watch for the “LOOK”!

I would like to know how some of you help your wives, especially if you get one of those looks. I would like to put them on the website for all dads to be encouraged. (No names will be published for your safety.)

Bob Brewer

Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4, NIV

Anderson Home School Association, Anderson, South Carolina