Code of Conduct
Code of Conduct
The Importance of A Code of Conduct
ETC is committed to fostering and encouraging parent led learning and social training. Although each ETC family is bound to have slightly different standards of behavior, the ETC Code of Conduct outlines standards that are commonly held by a majority of members and/or are beneficial in a group situation. We have all agreed to be held to this standard and for the personal safety of our fellow ETC members, for the reputation of our group, and for the sake of our volunteer coordinators, we are trusting one another to keep that commitment.
In the Absence of a Parent
In the event that a member must be absent due to illness, emergency or other obligations, her child(ren) may attend with a substitute guardian, such as a grandparent, babysitter, or another ETC mom who has agreed to be responsible for the child(ren). Please notify activitiy coordinators or the Consortium Director of these arrangements and always keep updated emergency contact information on file.
Please show your fellow ETC members common courtesy by keeping sick or contagious children at home. Children must be free of the following symptoms for 24 hours before the event to be attended.
- Fever, even low-grade
- vomiting or diarrhea
- on-going cough, congestion, or colored mucus
- skin infections or rashes
- other signs of infectious illness
If you become aware that a member of your family has contacted a serious communicable disease and may have exposed other ETC families, please notify the group through the ETC Yahoo Group so parents may be aware of potential infections in their children.
Be aware that some ETC families chose not to vaccinate their children according the immunization schedule recommended by the mainstream healthcare community.
In case of family emergency or sickness, well children will be allowed to attend events with a relative or other parent who will be responsible for them. Please notify the Coordinator in the event of unexpected absences.
It is each parent’s responsibility to be knowledgeable about and enforce ETC’s standards of behavior within their own family at ETC events and activities. Because each ETC family has different methods of discipline, a parent should be continually available to handle any issues that might arise with their own child(ren.) Your fellow ETC members should not be put in the position of policing your child(ren).
Disruptions and Distractions
- Please limit distractions by arriving on time to activities. Parents should settle children before the event’s start time and encourage them to wait patiently for the meeting to begin.
- If an infant, toddler or other child becomes upset or loud during an organized activity, please remove the child to a place out of earshot and calm them before returning to the activity. As mothers, we know that it is sometimes hard to leave some children to take one out. We have found it helpful to 'buddy up' with another mom you know who is there and agree to tag team if necessary--her being responsible for your child(ren) if you must step out and you doing the same for her.
- Try to restrict bathroom and snack breaks to between activities.
- Remind children to refrain from making unnecessary noise or participating in off-topic discussion or activities during event.
- Organized group events are an ideal place for homeschool students to practice group etiquette by raising their hand before speaking, waiting for a turn, and occasionally standing in line.
* Although most of us are thankful that our child(ren) are spared that structure all day, every day, a few hours a week can be a valuable learning opportunity.
- As tempting as it is to visit with other homeschool moms, remember that during structured, educational ETC activities is not the time or place. There is often a time of fellowship and play after ETC activities, and visiting should wait until that time.
- Make an effort to limit cell phone and other electronic device use during ETC formal activities. Turn your ringer volume on low or vibrate and answer only the most necessary calls outside of the meeting area.
- Please model attentiveness for our students during programs and classes. Nothing should continually distract you from your participation with your child(ren) at ETC events.
All participants of any event will be expected to help with clean-up. It is ETC policy to leave any facility or location in better condition than we found it. In the absence of a paid janitorial staff, it takes the cooperation of all participating members to make that happen. In general, if you use it, clean it and/or put it away. We are counting on every member parent to be actively involved in facilitating the activities which their family is attending. Wherever you serve during each event, please help clean up that area as well. Just as you participated and learned as a family during an activity please also work together to return supplies and equipment and clean up the area. Children should not be running wild while moms do all the work.
Standards of Behavior
1 Peter 3:8--Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another, love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous...
We aim to uphold a high reputation of ETC members and homeschoolers in general by establishing a code of conduct. A standard of behavior that encourages everyone to act in a Christ-like manner will make field trips and activities manageable for everyone, and open new opportunities to our group. The code of conduct for ETC will be in keeping with Biblical guidelines that the majority of us would agree on, and will put the responsibility for enforcing these standards back on the parents. Each person attending an ETC event, whether adult, youth or child, will be expected to abide by the following standard of behavior.
- Refrain from any careless, unkind, foolish or rude behaviors.
- Let the command to “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” be your guide.
- Commit to representing Christ in your attitudes and behaviors toward others.
- Bullying, physical aggression, recklessness, abuse of property, or violent behavior that endangers others will not be tolerated.
- Honor others with your speech.
- Curse words, any use of the Lord’s name in vain, and other offensive speech is unwelcome at ETC activities and on the ETC forums.
- Lies, gossip, insults, and “slamming” will not be tolerated.
- Show respect for others’ property by using only what you have permission to use.
- Take care to leave every place we go in a better condition than we found it.
- Restitution for abuse or neglect of others’ property will be the responsibility of the member causing damage.
- Children should show respect for adults in speech, manners, behavior and attitude.
- Parents are encouraged to instruct their children to use “Mr.” or “Mrs.” with last names when addressing adults at ETC events.
- Limiting interruptions, looking for opportunities to serve and practicing first time obedience are a few ways our children can show respect.
- Show our appreciation to teachers and presenters by being obedient and respectful.
- All in attendance should listen quietly and attentively.
- Children should raise their hand before making comments or asking questions.
- The use of common manners will be expected.
Being an Example:
- All members should be mindful that they will be looked to by younger peers for examples of the standard of behavior in a given situation.
- Set a good example and offer deference to younger members at all ETC events.
- Keep in mind general principles of cleanliness, neatness, and modesty of dress.
- Males and females alike should avoid being a stumbling block to others by being careful about their dress and conduct.
- Clothing should not be tight or revealing.
- Neither underwear, nor cleavage, midriffs, upper thighs, or other similar areas of the body, should be exposed at ETC events.
- Do not expect that an exceptional activity or extreme weather will warrant an exception to ETC’s guidelines for modesty.
- When in doubt, please err on the side of modesty.
- ETC events are not the time for coupling up.
- Since each family has different ideals and expectations about dating or courtship, ETC activities should not be a place for the practice of either.
- Obvious flirting and any public displays of affection should not take place at ETC activities.
Of course, we all understand that children misbehave at times. An advantage of homeschooling is that we get to be with our children to help train and guide them through new or difficult social situations. One of the reasons for participating in group activities such as ETC Events is to have opportunities for social training that we might not have just within our own homes. Because we are partnering with other homeschooling moms, we should be surrounded by friends who understand the trials and joys of this significant responsibility. We can aid each other in this goal by offering one gentle reminder to a misbehaving child. Any further problems should be taken to the parent of that child. We do one another a disservice by neglecting to make parents aware of issues that might need to be addressed within their family.
Handling an Offense
As we fellowship and build relationships, we trust that all will be thoughtful of others and display Christ-honoring attitudes and actions. When instances arise where there is an offense or concern, approach the matter prayerfully, first considering your own part in the matter. Then let the Matthew 18 principle be your guideline:
" If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church (or body of believers); and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or tax collector".\
It is our prayer that these guidelines will unify and protect our members. Ensuring that everyone is clear about what is expected and how ETC activities will operate, will hopefully prevent conflict.