Code of Conduct
The Importance of a Code of Conduct
The Consortium is a supplement to parent led learning and social training. Although each ETC family is bound to have slightly different standards of behavior, the ETC Code of Conduct outlines standards that are in keeping with Biblical guidelines on which the majority of us have agreed and/or are beneficial in a group situation.
Each person attending an ETC event, whether adult, youth or child, will be expected to abide by the following standard of behavior. We have all agreed to be held to this standard and we are trusting one another to keep that commitment. Therefore, if you chose to leave your child(ren) under the supervision of ETC Instructors and volunteers, you should feel assured that these common standards of behavior will be expected of your child. It is each parent’s responsibility to be knowledgeable about, and to make their own child(ren) aware of, ETC’s standards of behavior. Likewise, enforcement of these standards is ultimately the responsibility of the parent(s) of each student. The Commitment Pledge that you and your children sign is your agreement to participate in all ETC events accordingly.
A standard of behavior that encourages everyone to act in a Christ-like manner will make Consortium classes manageable for everyone. We trust that this will open new opportunities to our group.
Standards of Behavior
1 Peter 3:8--Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another, love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous...
Refrain from any careless, unkind, foolish, or rude behavior.
Let the command to “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” be your guide. Commit to representing Christ in your attitudes and behaviors toward others.
Bullying, physical aggression, recklessness, abuse of property, or violent behavior that endangers others will NOT be tolerated.
Honor others with your speech.
Children and adults alike should refrain from making unnecessary noise or participating in off-topic discussion or activities during classes and assemblies.
Curse words, any use of the Lord’s name in vain, and other offensive speech is unwelcome at the Consortium.
Lies, gossip, insults, and slamming will not be tolerated.
Show respect for others’ property by using only what you have permission to use.
Keep personal items inappropriate for class room activities at home or put away. Any violation of this rule may result in an item being confiscated and held until a parent retrieves it. A few examples of such items are toys, knives, cell phones, gaming devices, off topic media, etc.
Take care to leave every place in a better condition than you found it.
Restitution for abuse or neglect of others’ property, including church property, will be the responsibility of the member causing damage.
Since each family has different convictions and preferences about appropriate media, video games, videos, books, websites and other similar items should not be shared with other students at the Consortium without the permission of the parents of the students involved.
There will be zero tolerance for the inappropriate use of media.
Children should show respect for adults in speech, manners, behavior and attitude.
Organized group events are an ideal place for homeschool students to practice group etiquette by raising their hand before speaking, waiting for a turn, and occasionally standing in line.
Parents are encouraged to instruct their children to use “Mr.” or “Mrs.” with last names when addressing adults, including Instructors and Class Assistants at the Consortium.
Limiting interruptions, looking for opportunities to serve and practicing first time obedience are a few ways our children can show respect.
Show your appreciation to Instructors, Class Assistants and guest speakers by being obedient and respectful.
All in attendance should listen quietly and attentively. The use of common manners will be expected.
Children should raise their hand before making comments or asking questions.
Part of showing respect for the Instructor is to come to class prepared. If preparation is required for the class and student comes to class unprepared, he/she may have to observe during that portion of the class which required preparation.
Being an Example:
All members should be mindful that they will be looked to by younger peers for examples of the standard of behavior in a given situation.
Set a good example and offer deference to younger members at all ETC events.
Keep in mind general principles of cleanliness, neatness, and modesty of dress.
Males and females, from young children to adults, should avoid being a stumbling block to others by being sure that their dress and conduct is modest at all times.
Clothing should not be tight or revealing.
Neither underwear, nor cleavage, midriffs, upper thighs, or other private areas of the body, should be exposed at ETC events.
Do not expect that an exceptional activity or extreme weather will warrant an exception to ETC’s guidelines for modesty.
When in doubt, please err on the side of modesty.
ETC events, including the Consortium classes, are not the time for coupling up.
Since each family has different ideals and expectations about dating or courtship, ETC activities should not be a place for the practice of either.
Obvious flirting and any public displays of affection should not take place at ETC activities.
Enforcement of the Code of Conduct
Of course, we all understand that children misbehave at times. An advantage of homeschooling is that, in most cases, we get to be with our children to help train and guide them through new or difficult social situations. One of the reasons for participating in group activities, such as ETC Events, is to have opportunities for social training that we might not have within our own homes. Because we are partnering with other homeschooling moms we should be surrounded by friends who understand the trials and joys of this significant responsibility. Understand that minor infractions of the Code of Conduct will be handled in the following manner.
Offense #1 Verbal warning from the Instructor or Room Assistant
Offense #2 Verbal warning from the Room Assistant
Offense #3 Verbal warning and moved to sit by the Room Assistant
Offense #4 Removal from the class to sit by the Check In/Out Attendant. In this case the parent will be notified through a Incident Report completed by the Class Assistant.
Offense #5 If steps 1-4 occur more than once within an eight-week quarter, the parent will be asked to attend class with the child or withdraw the child from the class.
Steps 1-3 or 4 may be skipped in the case of a serious infraction of the Code of Conduct. A child may be removed from class, without warning, at the discretion of the Class Assistant and/or ETC Leadership. A student’s parent will always be notified in such cases.
We believe that we do one another a disservice by neglecting to make one another, as parents, aware of issues that might need to be addressed within our own families.
Handling an Offense
As we fellowship and build relationships, we trust that all will be thoughtful of others and display Christ-honoring attitudes and actions. When instances arise where there is an offense or concern, approach the matter prayerfully, first considering your own part in the matter. Then let the Matthew 18 principle be your guideline:
This means that you should speak directly, in a calm, friendly manner, to anyone who has offended you or caused you a serious concern. If you are unable to resolve the problem between the two of you, please bring the issue to a member of ETC Leadership. They will assist you in further addressing the matter with the parties involved. If there continues to be a problem, the entire Leadership Team will be consulted and brought in to handle the problem from there.
It is our prayer that these guidelines will unify and protect our members. Ensuring that everyone is clear about what is expected and how ETC activities will operate, will hopefully prevent conflict.