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Why do I feel so alone?

We sometimes hear from moms who are disappointed after their first year in PHC that they still lack meaningful connections. While joining the group may be a starting point to building the relationships you need, it is not an "instant fix". Building lasting friendships takes a long time and lots of effort! Most homeschool moms (even long-time ones) will admit to sometimes feeling lonely and isolated--often even while keeping a very busy schedule. Don't give in to discouragement. "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit" (Psalm 34:18). 

Here are some ideas as you get involved in PHC:

  1. Pray. Pour your heart out to God and let him know how your heart is breaking. Be specific and ask Him for what you desire for your family.
  2. Attend the monthly support meetings and lend a helping hand.  This is a great way to meet other homeschool moms. Service always brings people together.
  3. Volunteer to help with an event. This will put you in contact with many different families in the group and you will start to converse with them.
  4. Make time to bring your children to the PHC Park Days. You never know who your children will meet and bond with while you are enjoying a time of visitation with other moms.
  5. Be your child's advocate and reach out. Sometimes, you just need to look through the membership directory for other children in your child's age group and start making phone calls. You can invite them for a park day, beach day, a cooking class in your home - you make it happen. However...please know that homeschool families tend to be overbooked with outside commitments so don't take a "no" personally.
  6. Be reflective and prayerful. Before concerning yourself with "friends" for your children, take a close look at your family situation and prayerfully observe any issues that God places on your heart.  For example:
  • Do your children seem disconnected from one another? Maybe because they have been in a traditional school and separated during the day, or perhaps you are so busy or distracted that you have not invested sufficient time in helping them relate to each other?
  • Do your children seem obedient at home or do they tend to be rebellious and argumentative? What are you modeling for them as you relate to your spouse?
  • Is your household in balance? Are you adequately covering academics, giving time to spiritual training, and getting your basic household chores accomplished most of the time? If not, these need to be evaluated before you look to add more that will pull you away from home.
  • If you have some concerns, then maybe God has given you this time alone for training and rebuilding your family. Take advantage of this season and seek His direction. Be willing to follow where He leads, even if it means not being as "busy" or socially engaged as others you observe.

Remember that sometimes God gives us a season or two of quiet times because we need it. 

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.  Romans 8:28

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